Between Beauty & Heartache

What We Didn’t Know: Complex Trauma, Marriage, and the Road to Repair

Episode Summary

In this vulnerable and hope-filled episode of Between Beauty & Heartache, I’m joined by my husband, Noah Anders, as we continue to open up about our story—specifically the part where everything began to make more sense: discovering that I was living with Complex PTSD. We talk about what it was like to navigate marriage while unknowingly carrying the weight of complex trauma, how language and understanding shifted everything, and what healing has looked like in the trenches—together. Along the way, we share resources that helped us make sense of the pain, including the work of Adam Young (The Place We Find Ourselves) and The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk. If you or someone you love is carrying unspoken pain or unnamed patterns, this episode is for you.

Episode Notes

Resources mentioned:

The Place We Find Ourselves podcast by Adam Young

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

National Center for PTSD – U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs

complextrauma.org – Complex Trauma Resource

The Allender Center: For those seeking deeper healing through story, The Allender Center offers training and care rooted in Narrative Focused Trauma Care® (NFTC). Their mission is to foster redemption and healing by helping individuals tell their stories with awareness and integrity. To connect with a trained story coach or therapist, visit their NFTC Directory.

Trigger Warning: Includes discussion of trauma, emotional dysregulation, and marital strain. Listen gently and take breaks if needed.